Strengthening emotional independence
Osho taught us not to have any attachments.
I respect Osho, but the truth is, we can't avoid attachments altogether. We live in a society, and we are attached to our country, our parents, our planet, our work, and various collective energies (egregores).
In a healthy state, these attachments should provide you with energy, while you also give energy in return. It's a two-way connection.
When energy only flows in one direction, the attachment becomes painful. And this is where Osho was right.
Here’s what that looks like:
Ask yourself: Who inside of me is holding this attachment?
If you look within and the image is blurry, it means there’s no clear "speaker." If a specific image comes to mind, it’s likely a subpersonality, an improper crystallization — a mental entity that’s trying to act as your "helper."
If you're mentally healthy, when you look inside, you won’t see an image, you won’t see anything. This self-observation will bring you calmness, and the process of inner transformation will begin.
If there is an improper crystallization, the problem lies in who is asking this question. This part of you operates from the perspective of an egocentric essence, a subpersonality that has deeply entrenched itself, believing there are only two truths: its own and the wrong one.
All of your attachments — to family, to the planet, to your country, to your opinions — are in your mind. They are part of you.
In this case, you don't need to take drastic actions. Be humble, calm, and observe reality for what it is. Notice when you're getting emotionally triggered — then go inward and ask: Who is bothered by this?
If you're mentally healthy, you’ll find there’s no one there.
It's simply a belief you've imposed on yourself, convincing yourself that this is important. This is a dysfunction. Find it, dissect it. This doesn't mean you have to abandon the world; it means this problem will stop bothering you from the outside, and you will become more grounded in your inner truth.
When painful attachment no longer holds power over you, you'll retain your potential for yourself.
Light and Love
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